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15Jan

Don’t tell your child “What were you doing the whole year” before exams

Exams are round the corner. You and your children are into the Exam Mode. The last few months start taking a toll on all. And when you find out that your child has forgotten to study something or has lost some book or notes, or there are still some ‘doubts’ which are actually substantial, you feel like pulling out your hair.

Some children are careless, some casual, some immature, some underestimate the time and the studies that need to be dome. There are many reason why the children make such mistakes.

It is very normal for you to ask your child, “What where you doing the whole year?” It is a valid and a relevant question. But it may not be the right time to ask that question. It is only going to add to your child’s distress.

Hold your breath
If you end up facing such a scenario, hold your breath, sit with your child and assess the extent of the problem. If it is something simple, just go ahead and do it without any censure. That way, you will gain your child’s trust and if there is more trouble brewing, the child will confide in you.

If you go ballistic and panic yourself, the child will prefer not to share anything more, and that is when they begin to feel trapped and unable to manage the problem on their own. . However bad it is, do not make your children feel that it is the end of the world; because it really is not. It may be bad but not life threatening.

Ask for help
If you need help, do not hesitate to ask for it. This is not the time to feel embarrassed about it, to worry about the comments that you will have to hear. You can do that for your child.

The child also learns a valuable lesson from you, how to manage your mistakes and recover from it. After the exams, you can sit down with your child and give a piece of your mind and heart.

This is January and time to focus on doing the best you can in the time that is available to you. That applies to the parents as well.
Good Luck!

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